I never thought I’d consider writing a memoir.
Fiction is my genre. It always has been, ever since I was a little girl crafting “books” out of construction paper and crayons. When I declared myself a writer at some point in elementary school, I wanted to write stories. I wanted to make stuff up.
There’s a safety in fiction that doesn’t exist for memoir.
Maybe that’s why I kept myself firmly planted there for so long. I never had to be held accountable. I could always say, it’s just a story, if anyone bothered me about autobiographical details.
Of course every writer, no matter the genre, weaves in elements of themselves, their lives, in their work. If not things that happened to them directly, then things they observed, sensed, or felt. Creativity doesn’t happen in a vacuum. But fiction writers can hide behind a cloak of invisibility – or at least, pretend to do so – while memoirists are stark naked.
Over the last couple years, I’ve been taking some different kinds of chances. I wrote about witnessing my mother’s death and the birth of my first child, about postpartum depression and my daughter’s celiac diagnosis. Stories that belong to me, but also, in a way, to my family.
The part of me that values privacy – and secrets – wanted to muffle this new tendency. But something shifted inside me, a curiosity began to unfold.
Recently, a writer friend left a comment on my blog post that flung the door open wide open (thank you Julie Gardner).
“You have a memoir in there.”
Her words stopped me in my tracks. They sunk in and took root, even when I tried to brush them away.
They were part of what inspired my recent guest post on The Gift of Writing.
Own Your Story: Overcoming Fear About Writing Memoir is about my journey, which is still in progress, but also contains universal truths that I discovered in my research about common themes that hold people back from telling their stories.
Please take a look if you’re interested in the topic. Thank you as always for reading my words, here and beyond.
Good for you, dear Dana! 🙂 xxx
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Oh, thank you Sophie!! I hope you know I’m still quite a lurker over at your delicious blog 🙂
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yay! xxxx Happy to please you all! x
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Wow. So… I just posted today about this. (Something along the lines of it, anyway.) Also, hubbie just gave me “The Art of Memoir” by Mary Karr. Wild. I, obviously, completely agree with you and so relate to this. Own Your Story. I love it.
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I loved your post, Sarah, and can relate. Sometimes I skim the surface, too, out of fear, both for myself and family members. It’s hard to know where to draw the line, but it’s also crucial not to get caught up in the fear, and to simply get the story down. I am putting that Mary Karr on my list!
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Oh I love this. I’m pretty private and never imagined I’d write a memoir either. But I’m working on one and love that Cheryl Strayed quote so much.
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Oh, I love that you’re working on one too, Tricia! Cheryl Stayed is so awesome, I can’t wait to read her latest book, sounds so inspiring.
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Left you a comment there!
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What ever you take on Dana will be brilliant you are a talented writer.
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Oh, thank you Kath! You are too kind 🙂 The admiration is mutual!
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Here is to 2016 being a great writing year Dana
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Yes, for us both! xoxo
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