Mothering Through My Darkness

I have exciting news to share… I’m proud and honored to be included in this important anthology, Mothering Through the Darkness: Women Open Up About the Postpartum Experience, coming out in November 2015, and edited by the wonderful women behind the HerStories Project.

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The essay, which I wrote days before the deadline, came pouring out of me, as if it had been in hibernation. In a way, it had. I never believed I had postpartum anything. I didn’t feel that my pain warranted help. I wasn’t in deep enough, my darkness wasn’t dark enough. But now I understand that the spectrum is broader than I believed, that the lines are not black and white.

I believe this book will help de-stigmatize postpartum pain, and remind those who have suffered from it, or continue to suffer, that they are not alone.

It has helped me already, the writing of it, and I am eager to read the stories from my co-contributors, and glean wisdom from their experiences.

Have you or anyone you’ve known suffered from postpartum depression/anxiety/pain? Did they seek help or go at it alone? 

 

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26 thoughts on “Mothering Through My Darkness

  1. Congratulations! This is going to be an amazing book. You’re right about this: the spectrum is broad. It’s a really tough road and made worse when you are not “typical” so don’t know what’s happening or get help.

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    • Thanks Lisa! I felt so alone while I was experiencing it, determined to muscle through without help. But now I see how much I was struggling. I do think – and hope – this book will help many, many women.

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  2. Congratulations – it sounds like it’s going to be an amazing anthology! I think, as you say, the spectrum on postnatal experience is really broad. After my first son I expect to feel on top of the world like everyone had told me about… but I didn’t. But I also didn’t feel depressed, I just felt kind of ‘off’ and thrown and like I was living in the twilight zone. Thankfully I had a group of mums from my antenatal class and we were honest with each other and supportive. I sometimes wonder where I would have been without them. Honesty in this area is so important. Whatever postnatal experience we have, we are not alone. xx

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    • Thanks so much Maddy. Agreed, we all need support and honesty when we become new moms. I love the way you describe it, the Twilight Zone indeed! I felt that way too. My whole world had been ripped off like a tablecloth and everything was left shaking and unsteady.

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  3. I was so excited to see you were in it! I thought about submitting a story but didn’t have one. Not for this book. Perhaps the next. I simply can’t wait to read your words!

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  4. Hearty congratulations, Dana! I am so excited to read you and other friends in this anthology. These essays, I am certain, will demonstrate the power of perseverance and how to navigate the darkness.

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  5. HUGE congratulations to you my friend. I can’t believe I was selected, either. I didn’t realize what I was feeling back then at all and never got help… a book like this would have been so welcome.

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    • I was pretty shocked too 🙂 I feel like I still have so much to learn, which I suspect will come when I read all the essays.

      For obvious reasons I’m especially curious to read stories about women who also fell into the gray area, the outer edges of PPD. It wasn’t until I gave myself permission to write the essay did I acknowledge how lonely and painful that time was for me.

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      • I completely doubted my experience. I thought it was being an older mom, and natural worry. Um, maybe not… I can’t WAIT to read your essay!

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  6. Congratulations, Dana! What wonderful news. I’m so excited to hear that your writing will be included in this important anthology. It’s important to share a variety of experiences. I bet a lot of women will recognize their own story in yours, enabling them to “pull the curtain” back so to speak and realize that they aren’t alone.

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